Anankelogy Principles

The more you moralize any pain as bad, the more likely you will miss its warning of some threat. Ignoring your anger leaves you painfully vulnerable to what you likely cannot accept. Ignoring your fear leaves you painfully vulnerable to what you cannot confidently handle. Embracing such uncomfortable emotions allows you to deal with these threats. You benefit from their painful alarms.

The more open you keep yourself to enduring evoked discomfort, the more you can resolve the underlying needs. The more you embrace the natural warning signs of threats to be removed, and you promptly remove them, the quicker you can move beyond the pain and remove its source. The more fully you can function. The better you can function because of pain, the more you can value it.

The more you react to your pain instead of addressing the needs behind that pain, the less you can address the source of that pain. The less addressed, the more it festers and can grow into a terrible problem of its own. The more you promptly respond to the warnings your pain seeks to report, the quicker you can resolve the underlying needs and remove its cause for pain.

The more you try to avoid your pain, the more you end up ignoring the threats causing such pain. The more ignored, the more such threats persist to cause you more pain. The quicker you get to the source of your pain and remove the underlying threat causing you intense discomfort, the less pain you ultimately must suffer. There is no such thing as pain apart from unresolved needs.

The less you can resolve a need, the less you can function. Which feels painful. The less you can replenish what your life requires to function, the more your body warns you of this limitation as a threat. If unable to eat anything all day, you experience your obsessive hunger as something painful. Talking about pain can also refer to the painful desires you can ever adequately satisfy.

The more you become familiar with a recurring pain, the more you tend to favor it over the unknown pain of a less familiar way to deal with it. Natural pain tends to be sharp, in contrast to the relatively dull pain of partially eased needs. You know how to handle the dull pain of your partially resolved needs. Risking an unknown solution could produce results you’re unsure how to handle.

The more you indulge yourself to avoid the discomforts of fully resolving your needs, the more your unresolved needs result in lingering pain. The more you face upfront the intense discomforts necessary to fully resolve your needs, the more you will enjoy some long-term fruits and suffer less lingering pain. Your life typically reveals a pattern of favoring one or the other.

The more you surround yourself with every comfort and convenience available, the more you risk missing the deeper things in life. Life creates more meaningful results with a natural balance between unpleasant challenges and pleasant rewards. Too much shallow pleasure from nice things denies you the deep pleasure of enjoying a meaningful life independent of material things.

The fewer of your needs fully resolve, the more increasingly overwhelmed you find yourself with mounting levels of pain. Even if you can resolve most of your needs and must settle for less in a number of key needs, your full potential gets denied. Anankelogy refers to this as ‘symfunctionality’. It’s where you cope with your dull pain by becoming impersonally dependent on each other.

The more you rely on generalizations to address your problems, the more you risk overlooking the specifics essential to fully resolving such needs. Problems typically arise from overgeneralizing. We often generalize to avoid pain or to avoid losing a fragile coalition of support. The more we try to fix our problems while ignore the details of specific needs, the more our problems persist.

The more opposition goes against what the other side inflexibly needs, the more their defensiveness gets naturally provoked. Either side can possibly change what they do about their needs, but neither side can change the needs themselves. That’s impossible. Too often, their provoked defensiveness gets misinterpreted as willful stubbornness. If you cannot change your needs for them, why expect them to change theirs for you?

The quicker you assert your stance against another, or argue against an opposing position, the more likely you overlooked some vital details supporting the other side. The rush to debate often betrays avoidance of uncomfortable details. The more you can keep a disagreement at a controlled rational level, the less you risk exposing any embarrassing details you cannot defend or emotions you cannot control.