Anankelogy Principles

A-Foundational - B-Basic - C-General - D-Pain - E-Conflict - F-Power - G-Structural - H-Love

You will find these principles organized into eight distinct types.

Foundational Principles lay the basis for anankelogy as a unique science. These create the foundation for the discipline study of need. As objective phenomena, many aspects of our needs can be examined by the scientific method.

Basic Principles ground aspects of your experience with needs in the science of anankelogy. These establish anankelogy as a unique social science.

General Principles add wisdom to experiencing needs anchored in the science of anankelogy. These provide insight into what this new profession of need-response can do that other professional fields cannot.

Pain Principles start applying anankelogy to be more "need-responsive" in our lives. These apply primarily at the personal human problem level.

Conflict Principles offer some insight for negotiating disputes you have with others. These apply primarily at the interpersonal human problem level.

Authority Principles apply anankelogy to the legitimacy of those in positions of influential power. These apply primarily at the power human problem level.

Law Principles apply anankelogy to the point of having laws and unwritten norms. These apply primarily at the structural human problem level.

Love Principles cap these need-focused concepts with mutual respect for each other's needs. These give context to all the other types as we function best when we support others to function their best. One word for such positive regard is love.

<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">If stuck in a tyrannical situation, which do you think would produce better results?</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Political change that replaces one ideology with another.</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">OR</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Political change that inspires us all to be more loving to all.What we can now understand with anankelogical insight.</p>
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<h2 class="font_2"><strong>Anankelogy</strong></h2>
<p class="font_8">Academic anankelogy. For now, this serves as placeholder text. When I find the time, I will post the full deal here. Any drastic change that favors one group’s needs over another easily provokes pushback. Anankelogy posits a predictable cycle unfolds for each revolution. If accountably more responsive to the people’s needs, then that revolution can take hold. If violently more reactive to the point of neglecting the people’s needs, such a revolution cannot last.</p>
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<p class="font_8">This cyclic pattern presents in for phases:</p>
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<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Dynamic – new following</strong>: A fresh approach to neglected needs gains a foothold, then gains popular support with growing traction.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Dogmatism – new extremists</strong>: Much of it gets watered down to make it easier for wider adoption, which overlooks some needs.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Disillusion – new detractors</strong>: Critics emerge to call out its neglect of the bigger picture, and these gain their own counter-following.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distinction: new ideas</strong>: Detractors champion a counternarrative that tends to pit themselves against the old guard.</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">You could think of the third phase as the contrary group entering their first phase. And the fourth phase occurs when the contrary group steps into their version of the second phase. The more adversarial the revolution or introduced change, the more the new group predisposes its own eventual demise.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Let’s illustrate this by comparing the American Revolution with the subsequent French Revolution. The US Constitution persists as a governing document, while the French approach ignited more resistance.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Dynamic – new following</strong>: American revolutionaries called for more disciplined forms of governance, more responsive to the needs of the governed. French revolutionaries called for an overhaul of society will minimal attention to the affected needs of the governed.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Dogmatism – new extremists</strong>: American revolutionaries amicably split between pro-central government Federalists and decentral government Anti-Federalists, sliding toward civil tensions mostly resolved. Frech revolutionaries split between monarchist Girondins and anti-royalist Jacobins, sliding towards insurrections and the Reign of Terror.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Disillusion – new detractors</strong>: American revolutionaries spurred ideals that attracted calls for greater democracy by the early 19th Century, complementing the republican foundation. Frech revolutionaries spurred drastic changes that crashed the revolution within a decade, replaced by Napolean as Emperor.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distinction: new ideas</strong>: American revolutionaries eventually inspired greater inclusion of historically excluded peoples. Frech revolutionaries expelled the clergy and royalists to champion their own short-lived supremacy.</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">The American system provides more room to honor the needs of others as one’s own. The French system imposed one’s own needs at the uncompensated expense of others. The American system encouraged mutuality, of a shared connection. The French system exploited adversarialism, of infighting and self-destruction.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The more the American system now gravitates toward adversarialism, and away from mutual support of each other’s needs with love, the closer it draws to its own demise.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Need-response</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">Need-response seeks to replace adversarialism norms with mutuality practices. Instead of seeking drastic changes to relieve the pain of your own socially neglected needs, your supported as you endure the natural discomfort of resolving your own needs on par with others resolving theirs.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/principles-1/c05-general-principle"><strong>needs themselves never clash</strong></a>. Only how we respond to our competing needs. Adversarialism squanders our human potential to work through how best to address our competing needs, wasting precious energies and scant resources opposing each other’s <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/inflexible-needs"><strong>inflexible needs</strong></a>.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Mutuality, encouraged by the discipline of need-response, cultivates our human potential to love one another, to honor the needs of others as our own, and to maintain awareness of how each other’s actions impact each other’s inflexible needs.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The aim is not to relieve pain, which risks perpetuating pain by neglecting the needs prompting the pain. Rather, the aim is to resolve as many of each other’s needs as possible. To improve wellness outcomes of all.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Any drastic change that enables all to resolve more of their needs, with minimal to no negative impacts, tends to hold in place. The more response to needs, the better we all become. The more reactive to the pain of unmet needs, the worse we all become.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Reactive Problem</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">You may find the words of Jesus and others inspiring who assert love as our highest ideal. But then you regard that as merely aspirational, too unreachable to take seriously in our modern worlds.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Instead of honoring the needs of others as your own, you’re quick to oppose them. Your own unmet needs burn inside you with a clawing sense of urgency. You find no space to consider what others may need. Especially if they seem cold toward you and your affected needs.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Modernity expects you to take charge of your own needs. You agree that it’s irresponsible to wait on others. Each person must competitively fend for themselves.</p>
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<p class="font_8">This <a href="https://brill.com/display/book/9789004444836/BP000044.xml"><strong>hyper-individualism</strong></a><strong> </strong>narrative fuels your false sense of urgency. If you must solve all of your own problems, even if part of it stems from elsewhere, then you best start now. But you honestly cannot pull yourself up by your bootstraps in every situation. Oversimplifying your individualism spells trouble.</p>
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<p class="font_8">From your standardized isolation, you tend to react in ways worsening the situation. You generalize how to relieve the resulting pain, which overlooks the needs causing you pain. You cling to your trusted generalizations more as their familiarity provides your only promise for relief.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Meanwhile, you lose sight of how the power of love can liberate you from this mess.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responsive Solution</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">Need-response flips the script on overgeneralizing personal responsibility. Not be vacillating to the opposite extreme of collective responsibility. But by applying the discipline to exhaust all internal and external contributors affecting each need.</p>
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<p class="font_8">And much more. Need-response can either complement or compete with current institutions and modalities trusted to address our needs. Only need-response asserts the power of love—or honoring the <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/inflexible-needs"><strong>inflexible needs</strong></a> of others as our own—as its central guiding best practice.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Need-response could revolutionize how we address our problems. Legalist systems of politics and adversarial justice tend to perform poorly. Need-response could replace much of their built-in limits.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">Instead of championing your self-interest, you seek to understand the inflexible needs of others.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Instead of disagreeing with their questionable views, you relate to what shaped those views.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Instead of provoking their defenses, you mutually engage each other’s affected needs.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Instead of getting trapped in mutual defensiveness, you mutually understand each other.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Instead of seeking policies to favor your interests, you mutually support resolving each other’s needs.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Instead of provoking outrage and hate, we all encourage each other’s <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/glossary#viewer-css6a"><strong>social love</strong></a><strong>.</strong></p></li>
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<p class="font_8">Compared to the legalistic options of political change, a need-responsive revolution has potential to grow much deeper roots. The more responsive to everyone’s inflexible needs, the more sustainably it can improve our personal and shared wellness. That’s the durable <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/you-shall-love"><strong>power of love</strong></a>.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responding to </strong><em><strong>your</strong></em><strong> needs</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/forum"><strong>Engagement forum</strong></a> your thoughtful response to one of these:</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">The more I honor the needs of some, the more they exploit me. So what do I do about that?</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">What if I don’t want any revolution because I am content with the status quo?</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">As a person of faith, I believe the power of God is the only source for a good revolution.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">I sense we need a revolution right now, before we all destroy ourselves.</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below.</p>

H04 Love Principle

There is no greater revolution than to revolve back to love.

The more any revolution upends how any one faction can address their needs, the more such a social disruption plants the seeds for another revolution of drastic political change. The more any sweeping societal change enables mutual respect toward resolving more needs, the greater staying power such a transformation can have. We all function better with the mutual respect of love.

<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Which would you prefer?</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Fend for yourself and avoid being vulnerable to others, since you only can trust yourself fully.</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">OR</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Expand more of your life’s potential by cultivating meaningful and deep connections with others.</p>
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<h2 class="font_2"><strong>Anankelogy</strong></h2>
<p class="font_8">As fewer of your needs fully resolve, you naturally cannot function as well as before. The less you can function, the quicker you naturally prioritize more essential matters. You must put your full potential on hold.</p>
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<p class="font_8">As you go through modern life fending for yourself, you tend to fall prey to situations where your needs cannot fully resolve without the cooperation of others. Others are too busy fending for their own essentials. No one it seems fully resolves their needs.</p>
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<p class="font_8">You don’t personally know anyone living up to their full potential, so you accept your lot as normal. If you dared to reach out to offer someone help, you know you risk being exploited.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Despite the promises of modernity to make life easier, everyone seems to have it a little harder. And effectively become less loving than our recent communal ancestors.</p>
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<h2 class="font_2"><strong>Need-response</strong></h2>
<p class="font_8">The more you honor the needs of others as your own, the more you inspire at least some of them to honor your needs as their own. You tap into your life’s potential when ready to boldly <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/glossary#viewer-css6a"><strong>love</strong></a><strong> </strong>another like no one has <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/you-shall-love"><strong>loved</strong></a><strong> </strong>them before.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Need-response provides an effective communication framework to honor their needs as much if not more than your own. It follows the <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/engage#viewer-donvm"><strong>praise sandwich</strong></a> format, to sandwich your less pleasant message about how they affect your needs between positive affirmations of them.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">POSITIVE: “Thank you for your [value to me].”</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">NEGATIVE: “When you [act in a certain way, it affects my need].”</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">POSITIVE: “The more you respond to my needs, the more I can faithfully respond to your needs.”</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">For example, apply this to each other’s need to be better understood.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">P: “Thank you for listening to me and trying your best to relate to what I experienced.”</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">N: “When you joked that I took things too personally, it felt like you didn’t fully understand.”</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">P: “The more you can empathize with this traumatic experience, the easier I can relate to yours.”</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">Here’s another example.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">P: “I appreciate that you took the time to ask me how I am doing.”</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">N: “Saying ‘I’m fine’ is only half true, as I am still struggling to cope with all the harm.”</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">P: “I trust I can share more, as your patient with me as I thoroughly grieve this terrible loss.”</p>
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<p class="font_8">Keeping any unpleasant message squeezed between some positivity helps to sustain our potential to be more caring toward each other.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Reactive Problem</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">Yes, such engagement opens you to possible exploitation. Not everyone will respond in good faith. Some will assume you must have an ulterior motive. “Why are you trying to be so nice to me?” Others will reject your overtures of kindness for many reactive reasons.</p>
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<p class="font_8">You counter exploitation or unresponsiveness with assertive need-response. You hold firm. Humble and firm. You persist in your intent, and not react with defensiveness.</p>
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<p class="font_8">If others cannot appreciate your responsive effort, move on. Seek those you can trust to be more responsive to your offers of lovingkindness. Build your courage with early successes with them.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Don’t let anyone detract you from the higher ideals of love. Don’t let anyone distract you from your full potential to spread more love in this world. Don’t let anyone or anything detach you from a deeper connection with all life</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responsive Solution</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">When you experience yourself as one with the universe, you intuitively recognize that whatever you do to others you ultimately do to yourself. At a profoundly deep level, <u>we are all connected</u>.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Smile more often. See others smile in return. Offer small acts of kindness. Witness some reciprocate your generosity. When needing friendship, be a friend to them. Expand your social capital, your outlook on life, your potential to mature your empathy toward others.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Relate to others as you would have them relate to you. Find someone who’s as responsive as you. Recharge each other’s batteries, likely drained from all those distrusting souls out there. Keep each other’s love alive.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Get to know what others need, and how they need it. Humbly share your needs with them. Cultivate your trustworthiness by consistently respecting their needs. Show them how much you value them by your wiliness to put their interests ahead of your own.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Let love be your guide. Grow your lovingkindness reputation by letting your consistent concern for others keep you predictable. Let this keep you open to being loved by caring others.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Be honest about your mistakes, your shortcomings, your emotional wounds still healing, your times of doubt and distrust, your fears of being hurt again, and your willingness to risk more pain to reach more of your potential to love and be loved.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Be resilient, by getting back up after being knocked down time and time again. Let your equanimity keep your love unshakeable. Let your maturing love permeate your life like your life depends upon it—because it ultimately does!</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responding to </strong><em><strong>your</strong></em><strong> needs</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/forum"><strong>Engagement forum</strong></a> your thoughtful response to one of these:</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">It’s hard to love others who keep rejecting my sincere kindness.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Love often gets confused with sex, and that’s a problem I like to see addressed.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">Emotional intimacy plays a key role, rejected by those fearing such intimacy.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">I find it excruciatingly difficult to love others while self-absorbed in so much pain.</p></li>
</ul>
<p class="font_8">Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below.</p>

H05 Love Principle

Love unleashes our life’s potential.

The more you can fully resolve your needs in ways that enables you to respect the needs of others, the more of your full potential you can reach. You function better. You can do things better. Your wellness improves. You no longer must waste precious time and energy struggling to cope. You can invest your focus on continuing to resolve your needs and helping others to resolve theirs. It gets easier for you to do for them as you would have them do for you.

<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Which do you trust as a better guide for your life?</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Fend for yourself and not give others the chance to hurt you.</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">OR</p>
<p class="font_8" style="text-align: center">Spead more love to others to attract more meaningfulness in life.</p>
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<h2 class="font_2"><strong>Anankelogy</strong></h2>
<p class="font_8">Anankelogy takes a penetratinginterest in how <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/glossary#viewer-css6a"><strong>love</strong></a><strong> </strong>brings satisfying meaning to our lives. Love as a broad subject can be <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/a-new-gps-for-intimate-relationships/202410/loves-apogee-its-highest-expression"><strong>challenging to define for empirical study</strong></a>. Anankelogy focuses on an empirical aspect of love best defined as “honoring the needs of another as much or more than honoring one’s own needs”. As independently observable behavior, such acts of love can be empirically measured.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The more you’re loved and experienced yourself as valued, the more of your needs can resolve. The more your needs resolve more fully, the better you can function. Hence, this empirical way to measure love’s expression correlates with improved wellness.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Anankelogy defines wellness as improved functioning resulting from resolved needs. Conversely, a lack of wellness reduces functioning as a consequence of unresolved needs. Both can be empirically measured, as independently observable phenomena.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Knowing you had a meaningful hand in enabling others to more fully resolve their needs can profoundly resolve your deeper need for reaching more of your full potential. Or akin to what positive psychology calls self-actualization. You position yourself to connect deeper with life.</p>
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<p class="font_8">You then open up yourself to receive other’s support for your pressing needs. You find empowering purpose in the natural pain endured when resolving needs. You transcend material distractions to realize a pantheon of existence well beyond your tactile senses. You encounter a richer sense of joy in simply being. You find yourself ecstatically at-one with the universe.</p>
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<h2 class="font_2"><strong>Need-response</strong></h2>
<p class="font_8">Life bombards us with many temporal things repeatedly distracting us from meaningful connection and deeper <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/glossary#viewer-css6a"><strong>social love</strong></a>. Alarms should sound when you expect to depend on others more than others can depend on you.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The more your daily life pulls you into satisfying the impersonal expectations of others, the more you naturally yearn for some reciprocation. The more you acquiesce to the demands of social norms to serve the expectations of others, especially when at odds with your overlooked needs, the more you understandably expect others to do their share.</p>
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<p class="font_8">The more people you interact with in your social surroundings, the less you can know their specific needs. You naturally defer to social norms and written laws. But such norms cannot help you forge meaningful connections with others.</p>
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<p class="font_8">Love can. Social love takes you beyond the minimal expectations of social norms. Such love propels you to support other’s needs, instead of mere harm reduction or easing pain. Such love inspires you to remove the common cause for pain, which is unresolved needs.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Reactive Problem</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">Alienating social norms frequently interfere with engaging social love. How can you honor the needs of others if you only comply with minimal standards that neglect their specific needs?</p>
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<p class="font_8">The more our social norms become normalized as the preferred guide for social interactions, the easier we fall prey to <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/5-elements-of-toxic-legalism"><strong>toxic legalism</strong></a>. Such legalism dilutes the potency of love.</p>
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<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distracting hyper-individualism</strong>. Legalism tends to prioritize each other’s self-interests over common interests, which easily alienates you from the potential support of others. You’re supposed to fend for yourself as others fend for themselves. Legalism favors individualism over a sense of community or commonly shared bonds.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distracting hyperrationality</strong>. Legalism incentivizes you to guard your vulnerabilities behind a veneer of rational sounding arguments. You defend yourself self-righteously instead of humbly and vulnerably engaging each other’s affected needs. You keep your guard raised, so no one can come close and inspire you with their love.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distracting overgeneralizing</strong>. Legalism tries to keep things relatively simple, for easier cognitive processing. You risk accepting such watered-down versions as true, despite disconfirming details. <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias"><strong>Confirmation bias</strong></a> pulls you into <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tunnel_vision_(metaphor)"><strong>tunnel vision</strong></a>. The more these oversimplifications relieve your emotional pain, the more you likely conclude they represent the truth.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distracting avoidance.</strong> Legalism privileges stayingalienated from each other, to avoid getting to know what each other specifically needs. You repeatedly miss opportunity to meaningfully contribute to another’s needs as you remain stuck in the pain of your isolation. Your unprocessed pain disconnects you from life and its potential meaningfulness.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8"><strong>Distracting adversarialism</strong>. Legalism encourages you to oppose others as presumed foes who can’t be trusted, unless fearing your asserted rights with threats of punishment for presumed wrongdoing against you. Such broad stroke opposition limits your potential to spread love.</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">In short, such legalism spreads antilove. And easily perpetuates anti-wellness.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responsive Solution</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8"><a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/engage"><strong>Engage.</strong></a><strong> </strong>Replace legalistic <em>adversarialism</em> with <em>mutual regard</em> for each other’s inflexible needs. The more you can endure the uncomfortable challenges in getting to know each other better, the more meaning you can find in absorbing such intense <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/4-gradient-types-of-pain"><strong>pain</strong></a>. You <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/principles-1/d08-pain-principle"><strong>chase pain</strong></a> instead of letting pain chase you.</p>
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<p class="font_8"><a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/engage-1"><strong>Engage!</strong></a> Find out what others specifically needs, to earn their trust to engage your affected needs. Dissolve alienation by offering an act of simple kindness. Step outside of your shell to show others how it can be done. Reach out to those you trust can appreciate it, to encourage you to give more.</p>
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<p class="font_8"><a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/post/engage-2"><strong>ENGAGE!</strong></a> Hold influential people accountable with the greater authority of engaging love. Negate the suffocating hold of legalism by going beyond legal standards to address real needs. Earn the trust of others in ways legalist authorities never can. Bring out more of your life’s purpose by affirming their inflexible needs despite how they address them. Do for them what no one has dared offer before.</p>
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<p class="font_8">While others remain in the shallow levels of legalistic reasoning, you ascend to the higher plane of meaningfully improving lives. You raise the standard to empirically measurable <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/principles-1/b01-basic-principle"><strong>improved wellness</strong></a>.</p>
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<p class="font_8">You connect more deeply with others as you enable them to resolve more of their needs, so they can meaningfully improve their level of functioning, their wellness. You bring out the best in them. You allow others to bring out the best in you.</p>
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<p class="font_8">You spread love. And let yourself feel amazed at the blossoming of meaningful purpose such love brings out in us all. One loving act at a time.</p>
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<h3 class="font_3"><strong>Responding to </strong><em><strong>your</strong></em><strong> needs</strong></h3>
<p class="font_8">How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our <a href="https://www.anankelogyfoundation.org/forum"><strong>Engagement forum</strong></a> your thoughtful response to one of these:</p>
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<li><p class="font_8">How do you express love to others who refuse any overtures of kindness or affection?</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">I find many are too self-absorbed in their pain to even realize I am socially loving them.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">I look back on time when others tried to be kind to me and I didn’t know how to take it.</p></li>
<li><p class="font_8">What about the trauma many of us suffer and simply cannot trust others to give us love?</p></li>
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<p class="font_8">Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below.</p>

H06 Love Principle

Love energizes meaningfulness in life.

When you honor the needs of another as much or more than your own, you bring out the best in both of you. Something amazing emerges. Your love pulls you outside of your isolating cocoon. You start to soar to new heights of shared existence. You connect more deeply with others as your love melts your shells of alienation. You experience more of yourself as known and yet appreciated, still valued, still a trusted fellow human being. The more you help another appreciate their life’s value, the more your love brings out your own life’s meaningful purpose.

View this list organized into these topics

A-Foundational

B-Basic

C-General

D-Pain

E-Conflict

F-Authority

G-Law

H-Love