Our laws do not govern but guide; our needs govern. < Back G02 Law Principle List of all principles Our laws do not govern but guide; our needs govern. Image: Pixabay – Kriemer (click on meme to see source image) Summary The more you have a particular need that runs counter to a particular law, the less that law can actually govern you. Laws can only guide your actions toward respecting the needs of others. The objective fact of your core needs literally governs your behavior more than the relatively subjective constructs of law. Forcing yourself to fit some law at odds with your inflexible needs could result in anxiety and depression. Description Which do you think is more likely? Laws literally govern us and hold us accountable, so we don’t slip into chaotic anarchy. OR Laws do not literally govern but guide us by incentivizing how we respond to each other’s needs. Anankelogy Anankelogy illuminates how “law” serves as a metaphor for need . When declaring something as against the law, you’re really saying that it goes against some need. Theft is against the law, for example, because you need exclusive access to your property. Citing a law typically compels more respect for that need than directly expressing your need. “Please don’t take my things without asking” carries less of a punch than declaring, “You broke the law when you stole my things!” If the law is on your side, you can stay guarded and not expose your vulnerabilities. You let the law speak for your needs. This reinforces alienation. We let laws impersonally convey our needs to avoid the vulnerability of our emotions personally conveying our needs . It’s easier to defend a “rationally” produced law than our seeming irrational needs. Our inflexible needs control our actions far more than our flexible laws. Laws guide our actions to respect each other’s inflexible needs. It’s simply easier to say we are governed by rational laws than admit we are actually governed by irrational needs. The more we believe we are literally governed or controlled by laws, instead of merely guided by laws, the further we slip into toxic legalism . The more we force our inflexible needs to fit flexible laws, the less well we become. Anxiety and depression overrule our coerced conformities. Your inflexible needs cannot be ignored for the sake of any law. Need-response The further we drift from the needs our laws exist to serve, the easier we slide into toxic legalism . We slip into overgeneralizing. We remain alienated from each other. We easily become more hostile toward each other. On the surface, we trust laws to keep our interactions dispassionate. Under that veneer, we often usurp the pro-social purpose of law for selfish gain. When they desperately react to our legally privileged self-interest, which negatively affects their inflexible needs , we can smear them as lawbreakers, as criminals, as terrorists. As if our legally-privileged reactions matter more than their violated needs. “Why don’t they remain rational,” you could ask, “and use nonviolent means like the ballot and judiciary to file any complaint?” In other words, let the laws suit their needs so you don’t have to personally relate to them. You can then overlook how the “law” of runaway legalism repeatedly denies their needs. Need-response fills the many gaping holes of toxic legalism . Replacing selfish exaggerations with relevant specifics, alienation with engagement, and adversarial attitudes with mutual understanding and respect. Because the more you can resolve your personal needs, the less you’re driven by impersonal laws. Reactive Problem The more you force yourself—or become coerced—to comply with any law going against your inflexible needs , the more your body will rebel. Depression likely results. Anxiety often sets in. Pain abounds. Addictions to somehow cope with it all likely follows. The less your needs resolve because your forced to comply with some antagonistic law, the more pain you will suffer. The more you suffer in agony, the more compelled to desperately seek relief. This may include some illegal actions. Law enforcement may step in to punish your lawbreaking behavior. It goads you to comply with norms that violate your integrity. But is not equipped to care. Its impersonal approach typically remains blind to how it contributes to your lawless behavior. Especially if benefiting from your noncompliance. They vicious cycle repeats. When any impersonal law enforcement benefits from the need-violating conditions it helps create, anankelogy identifies this as empirical evil . How they benefit and your level of harm can both be measured, along with a correlation between the two. Responsive Solution Need-response counters this tendency toward toxic legalism with empirical uprightness . Which replaces toxic incentives discouraging wellness to now improving wellness. Instead of blindly trusting cited laws to fix a situation, need-response adds the discipline to address the specifics overlooked by generalized laws. That discipline includes empirically measuring the level of actual harm from coerced compliance. And empirically measuring how enforcers benefit from such depersonalizing coercion. Even if they see themselves being completely professional and doing a good job. The more enforcers benefit from impeding your ability to honor the needs of others, the more they can rationalize their coercive pressures as the trusted sole solution. Perverse incentives reinforce their ill treatment of rule breakers, while lacking incentives to encourage thriving. Need-response incentivizes flourishing over mindless compliance. It puts inflexible needs over flexible laws with what it calls citationization , or more simply “law-fit”. This reconnects us all to the original purpose of our laws, and that is to encourage mutually honoring each other’s needs. But instead of relying solely or heavily on laws or their enforcement to respect each other’s needs, love incentivizes us to honor the needs of others as our own. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: How can a society exist without laws? How can our needs govern us into doing stupid, harmful things to others? Will need-response try to replace law enforcement? What would happen if need-response itself becomes too impersonal to be effective? Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. Together, let’s improve our need-responsiveness . Together, let’s spread some love . 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There is no greater revolution than to revolve back to love. < Back H04 Love Principle List of all principles There is no greater revolution than to revolve back to love. Image: Pixabay - Engin_Akyurt (click on meme to see source image) Summary The more any revolution upends how any one faction can address their needs, the more such a social disruption plants the seeds for another revolution of drastic political change. The more any sweeping societal change enables mutual respect toward resolving more needs, the greater staying power such a transformation can have. We all function better with the mutual respect of love. Description If stuck in a tyrannical situation, which do you think would produce better results? Political change that replaces one ideology with another. OR Political change that inspires us all to be more loving to all.What we can now understand with anankelogical insight. Anankelogy Academic anankelogy. For now, this serves as placeholder text. When I find the time, I will post the full deal here. Any drastic change that favors one group’s needs over another easily provokes pushback. Anankelogy posits a predictable cycle unfolds for each revolution. If accountably more responsive to the people’s needs, then that revolution can take hold. If violently more reactive to the point of neglecting the people’s needs, such a revolution cannot last. This cyclic pattern presents in for phases: Dynamic – new following : A fresh approach to neglected needs gains a foothold, then gains popular support with growing traction. Dogmatism – new extremists : Much of it gets watered down to make it easier for wider adoption, which overlooks some needs. Disillusion – new detractors : Critics emerge to call out its neglect of the bigger picture, and these gain their own counter-following. Distinction: new ideas : Detractors champion a counternarrative that tends to pit themselves against the old guard. You could think of the third phase as the contrary group entering their first phase. And the fourth phase occurs when the contrary group steps into their version of the second phase. The more adversarial the revolution or introduced change, the more the new group predisposes its own eventual demise. Let’s illustrate this by comparing the American Revolution with the subsequent French Revolution. The US Constitution persists as a governing document, while the French approach ignited more resistance. Dynamic – new following : American revolutionaries called for more disciplined forms of governance, more responsive to the needs of the governed. French revolutionaries called for an overhaul of society will minimal attention to the affected needs of the governed. Dogmatism – new extremists : American revolutionaries amicably split between pro-central government Federalists and decentral government Anti-Federalists, sliding toward civil tensions mostly resolved. Frech revolutionaries split between monarchist Girondins and anti-royalist Jacobins, sliding towards insurrections and the Reign of Terror. Disillusion – new detractors : American revolutionaries spurred ideals that attracted calls for greater democracy by the early 19th Century, complementing the republican foundation. Frech revolutionaries spurred drastic changes that crashed the revolution within a decade, replaced by Napolean as Emperor. Distinction: new ideas : American revolutionaries eventually inspired greater inclusion of historically excluded peoples. Frech revolutionaries expelled the clergy and royalists to champion their own short-lived supremacy. The American system provides more room to honor the needs of others as one’s own. The French system imposed one’s own needs at the uncompensated expense of others. The American system encouraged mutuality, of a shared connection. The French system exploited adversarialism, of infighting and self-destruction. The more the American system now gravitates toward adversarialism, and away from mutual support of each other’s needs with love, the closer it draws to its own demise. Need-response Need-response seeks to replace adversarialism norms with mutuality practices. Instead of seeking drastic changes to relieve the pain of your own socially neglected needs, your supported as you endure the natural discomfort of resolving your own needs on par with others resolving theirs. The needs themselves never clash . Only how we respond to our competing needs. Adversarialism squanders our human potential to work through how best to address our competing needs, wasting precious energies and scant resources opposing each other’s inflexible needs . Mutuality, encouraged by the discipline of need-response, cultivates our human potential to love one another, to honor the needs of others as our own, and to maintain awareness of how each other’s actions impact each other’s inflexible needs. The aim is not to relieve pain, which risks perpetuating pain by neglecting the needs prompting the pain. Rather, the aim is to resolve as many of each other’s needs as possible. To improve wellness outcomes of all. Any drastic change that enables all to resolve more of their needs, with minimal to no negative impacts, tends to hold in place. The more response to needs, the better we all become. The more reactive to the pain of unmet needs, the worse we all become. Reactive Problem You may find the words of Jesus and others inspiring who assert love as our highest ideal. But then you regard that as merely aspirational, too unreachable to take seriously in our modern worlds. Instead of honoring the needs of others as your own, you’re quick to oppose them. Your own unmet needs burn inside you with a clawing sense of urgency. You find no space to consider what others may need. Especially if they seem cold toward you and your affected needs. Modernity expects you to take charge of your own needs. You agree that it’s irresponsible to wait on others. Each person must competitively fend for themselves. This hyper-individualism narrative fuels your false sense of urgency. If you must solve all of your own problems, even if part of it stems from elsewhere, then you best start now. But you honestly cannot pull yourself up by your bootstraps in every situation. Oversimplifying your individualism spells trouble. From your standardized isolation, you tend to react in ways worsening the situation. You generalize how to relieve the resulting pain, which overlooks the needs causing you pain. You cling to your trusted generalizations more as their familiarity provides your only promise for relief. Meanwhile, you lose sight of how the power of love can liberate you from this mess. Responsive Solution Need-response flips the script on overgeneralizing personal responsibility. Not be vacillating to the opposite extreme of collective responsibility. But by applying the discipline to exhaust all internal and external contributors affecting each need. And much more. Need-response can either complement or compete with current institutions and modalities trusted to address our needs. Only need-response asserts the power of love—or honoring the inflexible needs of others as our own—as its central guiding best practice. Need-response could revolutionize how we address our problems. Legalist systems of politics and adversarial justice tend to perform poorly. Need-response could replace much of their built-in limits. Instead of championing your self-interest, you seek to understand the inflexible needs of others. Instead of disagreeing with their questionable views, you relate to what shaped those views. Instead of provoking their defenses, you mutually engage each other’s affected needs. Instead of getting trapped in mutual defensiveness, you mutually understand each other. Instead of seeking policies to favor your interests, you mutually support resolving each other’s needs. Instead of provoking outrage and hate, we all encourage each other’s social love . Compared to the legalistic options of political change, a need-responsive revolution has potential to grow much deeper roots. The more responsive to everyone’s inflexible needs, the more sustainably it can improve our personal and shared wellness. That’s the durable power of love . Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: The more I honor the needs of some, the more they exploit me. So what do I do about that? What if I don’t want any revolution because I am content with the status quo? As a person of faith, I believe the power of God is the only source for a good revolution. I sense we need a revolution right now, before we all destroy ourselves. Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. 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< Back 11. Balancing masculine annoyance with feminine anxiety Do you prioritize one gender side over another? Or do you integrate both? Masculine focused If you're more rational than emotional, your needs best met with a more emotional emphasis naturally seeks some balance. One way nature prompts you to fill this void is through sexual energy, to compel you to pursue the complementary emotionality you currently lack. Whether stereotypically in a woman or perhaps in an emotionally attuned man. The less you integrate your rational qualities with emotional maturity, the more prone to swing between extremes of irrationality and unemotionality. For example, _________ The more you blend your rational qualities with emotional maturity, the more needs you can resolve and remove cause for pain. For example, becoming both reasonable and intuitive enables you to _________ Feminine focused If you're more emotional than rational, your needs best met with a more rational emphasis naturally seeks some balance. One way nature prompts you to fill this void is through sexual energy, to compel you to pursue the complementary rationality you currently lack. Whether stereotypically in a man or perhaps in a rationally minded woman. toward balance Cyclic balancing of these gender-associated traits Vacillating between opposing extremes Balancing complementary sides Oscillating toward a balanced center Encountering the holistic center Transspiritually compelled holism Conventional reaction to transspirituality The more attached to conventional norms, the more one tends to guard the comforting familiarity of pragmatism creep . text text Saturday, November 1, 2025 at 4:58:14 PM EDT Previous Next

Intellect is overrated where love is underperformed. < Back H02 Love Principle List of all principles Intellect is overrated where love is underperformed. Image: Pixabay – jonbonsilver (click on meme to see source image) Summary When confronted with something that hits close to home, it’s easy to then intellectualize it. To avoid discomfort of being vulnerable to others, we often prioritize rational knowledge over the less rational and messy side of being fully human. But flip the script. Go beyond trying to intellectually understand the things we do by trying to better understand each other. Then observe the power of love do some amazing things. Description Which do you value more in your life right now? Being smart. OR Being loved. Anankelogy Anankelogy introduces social love . That’s the act of prioritizing a proper response to another's need as being as important or more important than your own need(s) . Whether you feel like it or not. This can inspire others to respond better to your needs. You affirm another’s need, independent of your feelings. And independent of their emotional reaction. They could be resentful toward you, even hostile, but you still take the bold step to identify and address their inflexible need or needs. You leave rationality out of it for now, because needs exist independent of rationality. Rationality or intellect applies best for how we respond to any need. Not to the inflexible need itself. Your emotions convey your needs with little regard for reasoning. And the more threatened you feel, the more intense your emotions. While challenging, you can dispassionately respect another even while feeling disrespected. It’s a worthy discipline. While feeling upset, you can still affirm their needs. You could still feel a bit defensive at the time. You give them reason to drop your guard. You show them you’re not so hostile toward the needs they cannot change. You cultivate trustworthiness to be somewhat more honest, a little more vulnerable, a bit more exposed. You drop any rational arguing that no longer serves you in this moment. You shift gears. You switch from appealing to reason to appealing to their potential to be more loving, more empathetic, more gracious, more understanding, and more patient. You do the same for them, to encourage them to drop their rational arguments. To give them the confidence to no longer hide behind reasoning. You reach deeper to show how much you care about the inflexible needs inside them that require not reasoned defenses; they simply are. The power of this social love can break down barriers, heal emotional wounds, respect the unseen impacts of trauma, and draw out more of humanity and potential to be more loving to each other. No reasoned arguing or rational decision-making proves necessary. Need-response Emotions get a bad rap when acting upon our more intense emotions. But the bulk of your emotions guide your daily routines. They rarely lead you astray, as your emotions report what satisfactorily worked before. Your emotions effectively convey your needs moment by moment in your routine situations. When an unmet need compels your emotions to urgently do something, you may regret the decision. You wish you took a little more time to consider your options. You wish you would’ve been more rational. Rational decision-making applies more to novel situations than those routine situations we face minute by minute each day. For example, you rarely make purely rational choices when driving to work each day. You typically get to work on automatic pilot, following your gut instincts. Your emotions get you there because you can trust your emotions to report how to safely get you to work following the same effective routine as every day before. Rational thinking kicks in when you must take a detour. You then have to focus more and make a decision on a different option. Rationality emerges as important in a modern society rich with novel situations. But most of our decision-making has less to do with rational choices than optional choices. If we see no option to fully resolve a need, we opt for the next available thing—automatically. Usually with little if any reflection. And often with little if any bad consequences. We ride with our instincts on what seemed sufficiently satisfactory as before. Reactive Problem Modernity presents many novel situations. What worked before suddenly applies poorly in many of the new situations we face. We now must stop and think about it more often. And handle the regret when past gut reactions lead to frequent trouble. Our propensity to keep things manageably simple spurs us to generalize. So we emotionalize our rational thinking. We give rise to hyperrationality , which ascribes socially plausible reasons for our need-driven emotions. Then we cling to this idea that people are easily persuaded by disinformation and misinformation , or even malinformation . That itself is misinformation, or perhaps disinformation, or maybe even malinformation. misinformation = false information not intended to harm or manipulate disinformation = false information is intended to harm or manipulate malinformation = true information out of context intended to harm or manipulate Such hyperrational thinking ignores the deeper more vulnerable truth of our needs. Actually, we are less persuaded by the information itself and more by what in it that seems most responsive to our needs. Focusing on the information alone easily feeds the problem of hyperrationality that ignores our vulnerable needs. But who benefits? Who gains by selfishly denying our underserved needs in ways that fuel our desire to spread compelling narratives? To whose advantage do we normalize selfishness and self-righteousness as rationally good? Who profits the most when overrating rationalities while undercutting our potential to be more understanding and loving toward each other? Or put another way, which powers that be could be most threatened if we resolved more of our needs? Who’s incentivized to thwart us from responding more effectively to one another’s vulnerable needs? Responsive Solution It doesn’t take a genius to spread warmth with a caring smile. All our expectations of intellectual prowess easily miss the greater potential for our deeper human connections with each other. Yes, intellect matters. But intellect alone does not keep families and communities meaningfully together. The deeper qualities of life that holds us together costs little in rational capital. The young exuberant child with a learning disability, for example, can spread far more love than the cold professor too preoccupied to warmly smile at his anxious students. Love can resolve far more needs than mere intellect. Anankelogy recognizes love as a character refunction along with other noble responses like gratitude , grace , resilience , empathy and patience . It doesn’t require deep knowledge to thank others, to try to understand others more, or to be patient with them. It simply demands more love of honoring the needs of other as our own. Yes, having intelligence for how to think about our needs is good. Having wisdom for how to respond to our needs is much better. Having love to uplift our potential to resolve each other’s needs is unbeatable. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: I find it easier to love others once I know at least one personal unconditionally loves me. What some people call love seems more like appreciation, or desire, but not actual love. I still value good reasoning over feigned love, but I get the point. I sense social pressures pull us to value rationality more than our personal views about it. Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. 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< Back 4. Balancing masculine independence with feminine dependence Do you prioritize one gender side over another? Or do you integrate both? Masculine focused If you're more rational than emotional, your needs best met with a more emotional emphasis naturally seeks some balance. One way nature prompts you to fill this void is through sexual energy, to compel you to pursue the complementary emotionality you currently lack. Whether stereotypically in a woman or perhaps in an emotionally attuned man. The less you integrate your rational qualities with emotional maturity, the more prone to swing between extremes of irrationality and unemotionality. For example, _________ The more you blend your rational qualities with emotional maturity, the more needs you can resolve and remove cause for pain. For example, becoming both reasonable and intuitive enables you to _________ Feminine focused If you're more emotional than rational, your needs best met with a more rational emphasis naturally seeks some balance. One way nature prompts you to fill this void is through sexual energy, to compel you to pursue the complementary rationality you currently lack. Whether stereotypically in a man or perhaps in a rationally minded woman. toward balance Cyclic balancing of these gender-associated traits Vacillating between opposing extremes Balancing complementary sides Oscillating toward a balanced center Encountering the holistic center Transspiritually compelled holism Conventional reaction to transspirituality The more attached to conventional norms, the more one tends to guard the comforting familiarity of pragmatism creep . text text Saturday, November 1, 2025 at 4:58:14 PM EDT Previous Next

Power Problems Power problems occur when impactors impede impactees trying to properly resolve needs . power problems & power-impacted needs properly resolving needs Power problem ID: A05 Universal Cultural Incompetence Insensitive to valuable differences cultural incompetence cultural competency < previous next > Cultural Incompetence Neglecting the impactee’s culturally different values or perspectives, where the impactor potentially pressures the impactee to fit into their cookie cutter cultural norms. The impactee may rightly fear some form of retribution for not fitting into the impactor’s cultural expectation. Or feel their full value remains overlooked and their contributions routinely neglected. cultural competency The further along the cultural competence continuum , the more trustworthy the impactor to those vulnerable impactees who valuably exist and properly act outside of mainstream cultural norms. Whether a healthcare provider or a different impactor, the impactor's responsiveness to impactee cultural differences fall along a recognized continuum: Stage 1. Cultural Destructiveness Stage 2. Cultural Incapacity Stage 3. Cultural Blindness Stage 4. Cultural Precompetence Stage 5. Cultural Competence and Proficiency Need-response can guide the targeted impactor to improve their cultural competency by walking them through the need-response process with an impactee. The impactor learns to appreciate the impactee's hidden value and how to properly address anything that is not appropriate simply because it is culturally different. The impactee can then contribute more of their full value when free to be their authentic selves. And their differentness can invite the impactor to inquire if the impactee sees something that the impactor cannot through the lens of their own familiarity bias. The impactor then earns legitimacy to reliably impact impactees who are culturally different from oneself. And gain competitive legitimacy when tapping into impactees' unique perspectives. Cultural Incompetence Corrupting Influence Cognitive Contraction Coercive Compliance Coerced Poor Options Dependence

Power Problems Power problems occur when impactors impede impactees trying to properly resolve needs . power problems & power-impacted needs properly resolving needs Power problem ID: A05 Universal Cultural Incompetence Insensitive to valuable differences cultural incompetence cultural competency < previous next > Cultural Incompetence Neglecting the impactee’s culturally different values or perspectives, where the impactor potentially pressures the impactee to fit into their cookie cutter cultural norms. The impactee may rightly fear some form of retribution for not fitting into the impactor’s cultural expectation. Or feel their full value remains overlooked and their contributions routinely neglected. cultural competency The further along the cultural competence continuum , the more trustworthy the impactor to those vulnerable impactees who valuably exist and properly act outside of mainstream cultural norms. Whether a healthcare provider or a different impactor, the impactor's responsiveness to impactee cultural differences fall along a recognized continuum: Stage 1. Cultural Destructiveness Stage 2. Cultural Incapacity Stage 3. Cultural Blindness Stage 4. Cultural Precompetence Stage 5. Cultural Competence and Proficiency Need-response can guide the targeted impactor to improve their cultural competency by walking them through the need-response process with an impactee. The impactor learns to appreciate the impactee's hidden value and how to properly address anything that is not appropriate simply because it is culturally different. The impactee can then contribute more of their full value when free to be their authentic selves. And their differentness can invite the impactor to inquire if the impactee sees something that the impactor cannot through the lens of their own familiarity bias. The impactor then earns legitimacy to reliably impact impactees who are culturally different from oneself. And gain competitive legitimacy when tapping into impactees' unique perspectives. Cultural Incompetence Corrupting Influence Cognitive Contraction Coercive Compliance Coerced Poor Options Dependence

Resolving needs improves wellness. < Back B01 Basic Principle List of all principles Resolving needs improves wellness. Image: Pixabay – Bessi (click on meme to see source image) Summary Wellness is another word for function. All needs exist to serve function. The more you resolve your needs, the better you can function. The more you eat well, the better you can function. You eat, breathe, connect with friends and enjoy moments of solitude all for the sake of being able to function through life. The less your needs resolve, or the less you attend to your prioritized needs, the less you can function. Or the less well you will be. Where there is no function to serve, there is no need. Description Which do you think is more likely? Your ability to function has little to nothing to do with your needs. OR Your ability to function has everything to do with your needs. Anankelogy This unique understanding of your needs recognizes that your every need relates to your ability to function. The less your needs resolve, the less you can function. And the closer to being unwell. The more your needs resolve, the better you can function and be well. Accessible anankelogy refers to your level of functioning simply as wellness . Recognizing your wellness exists in gradient levels provides us with a deeper understanding. Anankelogy identifies four key levels of your ability to function . Peakfunction : When you prioritize to promptly and fully resolve your needs. You reach more of your full potential. You enjoy sustainable wellness. Symfunction : When you prioritize pragmatically easing your needs with help from others. You can sufficiently function. Just not at your best. Dysfunction : When you prioritize relieving the pain of your many unresolved needs. You can hardly function. You typically cope with something addictive. Misfunction : When you prioritize survival from too many unresolved basic needs. You barely hang onto life. You find yourself repeatedly at death’s door. A need can be appreciated as a kind of metaphor for function. The more your need for water is satisfied, the better you can function. The less your body’s requirement for water can be satiated, the less you can function. If you cannot satisfy your thirst, you will find yourself obsessing for something to drink. While you experience these subjectively, they begin from the objective reality for your life’s requirement for something to function. This applies equally to your emotional needs. If you cannot satisfy your longing to be understood and appreciated by those closest to you, you will find yourself obsessing to be accepted. You must receive some social connection to function, or you will remain in the pain of loneliness. Anankelogy recognizes a range between illness and wellness . Instead of suddenly becoming sick, you gradually lose the ability to function. You regressively shift from wellness into illness when your needs do not or cannot fully resolve. Need-response This new profession of need-response applies this central anankelogy principle. It can either complement or compete with other service institutions. Need-response can complement the psychological focus of psychotherapy by adding the essential dimension of responding to the needs that the mind processes. Need respond can complement law enforcement and the judicial process, and even politics. Or it can compete with these institutions by creating better results when addressing the needs for which they ostensibly exist. Reactive Problem These service institutions of law and psychotherapy tend to follow the popular norm of relieving pain over addressing the needs prompting such pain. The more a court battle or ballot contest offers mere relief for the pain of publicly affected needs, the less we can function. We tend to accept such relief is the best we can get. We accommodate to lower levels of being able to function. We cope with the increasingly pain of these unmet needs. We also get angrier and angrier at each other. Responsive Solution The more inspired to endure the discomfort of working through the painful portion of fully addressing our needs, the more we can fully resolve them. Pain is not the problem as much as the threat such pain exists to report . The further you can remove the threat prompting the pain, the better you can function. The more your needs resolve, the more your wellness improves. Once your functioning gets restored, the more capable of removing other threats. You then become less vulnerable to coping habits like addictions. As your wellness—your level of functioning—improves, the more your anger can shift toward grace, peace and love. The more your needs resolve, the more wellness you enjoy. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: How can this apply equally to a physical need and an emotional need like the need for love? How long do I have to put up with the pain before I can enjoy restored functioning? Isn’t short-term pain relief okay, or is the only path toward better functioning is costly pain? If I’m already trapped in addictive patterns, how can this insight help me climb out of them? Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. 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Laws impersonally convey needs. < Back G05 Law Principle List of all principles Laws impersonally convey needs. Image: Pixabay - LN_Photoart (click on meme to see source image) Summary The less we personally know about the needs of others, the more we rely on impersonal laws to guide our actions toward them. Where emotions personally convey our needs, established norms impersonally convey our needs. Laws are kept vague to apply in various situations, and impersonal to avoid favoritism. Consequently, laws cannot convey our needs as powerfully as our emotions. Description Which do you think is more likely? Trust social norms and enforcement by rational authorities to keep our emotions in check. OR Resolve our needs more fully to cultivate our emotions to act more properly apart from norms. Anankelogy While emotions personally convey needs , laws impersonally convey needs. While emotions alert you to needs from within, laws alert you to needs from without. While emotions draw attention to mostly your own affected needs, laws draw attention mostly to the needs of others. Apart from needs, there are no human laws. Your needs and my needs create purpose for laws. So let’s focus more on the needs our laws exist to serve. The more we rely on laws, the less we get to know each other’s particular needs. We may vainly expect laws to address everything others do that affect us. Then face repeated disappointment. Need-response aims to complement—or compete if necessary—our overburdened legal institutions. The judiciary and politics were never created to address all of our needs. Religion and community traditionally covered what the law could not. Modernity upends the central role of religion in many societies. And replaced our sense of local community with normalized alienation. Need-response presents the potential to fill that gap. Need-response Need-response aims to complement legal institutions, like the judiciary and political institutions. We introduce them to the grounding principle of inflexible needs . In other words, that every need exists as an objective fact . We define “need” narrowly with social science rigor. Anankelogically defines need as anything essential for functioning . You require water to exist, so you need water. You don’t require the bottle to hold that water, as you can get it other ways, so this anankelogically not a need, but merely a preference. Essentially, a “need” is movement to enable functioning . We draft and enforce laws to motivate cooperation for enabling each other’s functioning. Laws tend to serve as external motivators, in contrast to love as the most powerful internal motivator. And that can create a problem. Reactive Problem The more dependent on laws to convey our needs, the greater the disappointment. Especially when counting on the popular adversarial approach enflaming many of our conflicts. We impersonally expect others to take full responsibility for their actions, ignoring the context of their limited options. We impersonally insist others suppress the emotional intensity of their unmet needs, vainly expecting rationality to hide such uncomfortable realities. We impersonally demand others accept our self-affirming generalities, neglecting the nuance shaping each other’s specific needs. We impersonally avoid the unpleasant realities of how we affect their inflexible needs, overlooking how unmet needs traps us in pain we keep hoping in vain to avoid. We impersonally oppose others in the name of taking a firm stance, unwittingly provoking each other’s defensiveness when compelled to dig in our heels to guard our inflexible needs. Our adversarial legal institutions of the judiciary and politics fail to recognize these patterns. While their legalists mean well, they often reinforce conflicts with their adversarial approach. Need-response offers a compelling alternative that can actually lead to more peace and security, by addressing each other’s underlying needs. Responsive Solution With its more disciplined approach to address inflexible needs fueling conflicts, need-response raises itself to a higher moral standard than mere law enforcement. To incentivize responsiveness to each other’s inflexible affected needs, need-response introduces response enforcement . As currently envisioned, response enforcement progresses in seven stages. Revisit best practices. We look at ethical standards, industry best practices, licensing boards and such. In contrast to the legalist approach, we cultivate a nonadversarial process. Exhaust established accountabilities. We also invite any internal accountabilities to responding to affected needs. If unresponsiveness to inflexible needs, we move beyond legalist options. Introduce "law-fit". We tie any cited norm or law to the needs it’s meant to serve. We melt the alienation of impersonal laws. Coordinate civil disobedience . If still unresponsive to inflexible needs, we attract widening support to defy illicit norms. We challenge impersonal laws to resolve needs as much as need-response can. Escrow tax liabilities . We put our money where our mouth is. We deposit our tax liabilities into an independent account, automatically released to public coffers when they accountably respond to the public needs they exist to serve. Launch a scorn campaign . We hold all authorities personally and professionally accountable to wellness outcomes. We shun the resistant. We may ostracize the stubborn. And potentially mortify (or count as dead to us) the most violent of illicit authorities. Go full on response enforcement . We must resolve inflexible needs by any proper means necessary. We hold all, including ourselves, to empirically measurable wellness outcomes. If legalists resist such accountability, they lose legitimacy to affect us at all. As Jefferson wrote in the U.S. Declaration of Independence: “Prudence, indeed, will dictate that governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed.” Instead of abolishing any current government or shifting to a new form of governance, need-response positions itself as a competive alternative to legalism. It can either complement or compete with law enforcement. We cannot sit idle as toxic legalism destroys humanity. Need-response has yet to test these options. But something like it is desperately needed to fill the gaps exposed by our failing impersonal law-based institutions. Because your inflexible personal needs matter much more than flexible impersonal laws. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: We still need laws to preserve law and order, don’t we? Who keeps need-response professionals accountable to affected needs? How can a nonadversarial alternative be more effective than adversarial justice? I can a competitive alternative helping but suspect the powers that be would shut it down. Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . 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Power Problems Power problems occur when impactors impede impactees trying to properly resolve needs . power problems & power-impacted needs properly resolving needs Power problem ID: A05 Universal Cultural Incompetence Insensitive to valuable differences cultural incompetence cultural competency < previous next > Cultural Incompetence Neglecting the impactee’s culturally different values or perspectives, where the impactor potentially pressures the impactee to fit into their cookie cutter cultural norms. The impactee may rightly fear some form of retribution for not fitting into the impactor’s cultural expectation. Or feel their full value remains overlooked and their contributions routinely neglected. cultural competency The further along the cultural competence continuum , the more trustworthy the impactor to those vulnerable impactees who valuably exist and properly act outside of mainstream cultural norms. Whether a healthcare provider or a different impactor, the impactor's responsiveness to impactee cultural differences fall along a recognized continuum: Stage 1. Cultural Destructiveness Stage 2. Cultural Incapacity Stage 3. Cultural Blindness Stage 4. Cultural Precompetence Stage 5. Cultural Competence and Proficiency Need-response can guide the targeted impactor to improve their cultural competency by walking them through the need-response process with an impactee. The impactor learns to appreciate the impactee's hidden value and how to properly address anything that is not appropriate simply because it is culturally different. The impactee can then contribute more of their full value when free to be their authentic selves. And their differentness can invite the impactor to inquire if the impactee sees something that the impactor cannot through the lens of their own familiarity bias. The impactor then earns legitimacy to reliably impact impactees who are culturally different from oneself. And gain competitive legitimacy when tapping into impactees' unique perspectives. Cultural Incompetence Corrupting Influence Cognitive Contraction Coercive Compliance Coerced Poor Options Dependence

You NEED This Introducing anankelogy, the study of need Anankelogy is the brainchild of Steph Turner , author of the book introducing this new academic field. Steph identifies as a transspirit , or someone who feels spiritually compelled to transcend cultural divisions in order to connect more deeply with all of life in order to resolve needs more fully. Steph attributes the bulk of the insights into this new social science to spiritual wisdom. It's a wisdom Steph reports as a series of epiphanies that come naturally after resolving more and more needs. You may realize greater depths of reality that you never thought possible after more of your needs fully resolve. The more we unquestioningly go along with social norms for merely easing our needs or relieving the pain of our unmet needs, the more we see the world through a distorting lens. Anankelogy cuts a clear path through all this fog. Packed with 133 charts and diagrams, You NEED This provides many visual aids to help you see our experience of needs more clearly. Each of the six chapters subdivide into tightly organized sections, and numbered thoroughly for easy reference. No other book makes such clear sense behind our different political views . You NEED This unpacks political views as an outward expression of our inward inflexible priority of needs. Unpacking our polarization is as simple, yet challenging, as love ; of respecting other's different priority of needs as we would have them respect our different priority of needs. Get your own copy of this book to better understand your own needs. Discover what your emotions are truly about. Appreciate our common ground, and our many differences. Replace the misunderstanding fueling popular outrage culture with greater love for one another. Let us all get back to our potential for greater love. Purchase your eBook or paperback copy at Amazon . order on Amazon Anankelogy 101 eCourse

Placeholder Image symfunctional strain symfunctional strain < Back 3 symfunctional strain Symfunctional strain is the ongoing emotional stress from needs not fully resolved, limiting your ability to focus elsewhere and often mistaken as lack of intelligence. Need experience Each need you experience not fully resolved continues to compete for your attention. Compared to your more pressing concerns, most of these partially eased needs sit on the backburner of your conscious awareness. They remain in a queue, until evoked into full focal awareness. Meanwhile, your cognitive bandwidth shrinks . You find you cannot focus as fully and clearly on some things. Your persisting needs pull you for relief. They prioritize your thinking. They bias you. They compel you to do something for their relief, sometimes negatively impacting others outside of your awareness. “You’re being stupid!” they insist. Because it’s easy to conflate this cognitive contraction with lack of intellect, or lack of rational thinking, or with poor choices. They likely suffer this symfunctional strain too. When continually enduring unmet needs as a norm, it’s next to impossible to respect the needs of others. Symfunctional strain can slip into dysfunction, into projecting pain onto others, and other defunctions . Defunctionalizing Refunctionalizing Examples Relational knowing Sign up or sign in to view the full entry Complementary refunctions Conciliatory resolution 6/16/23 Previous Next