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About Introducing Anankelogy the book: You NEED This Anankelogy Principles Glossary Need-response Need help? Need-responders I-need messenger NR podcast NR Community Engagement Book Online Groups Development Relatably Responsive Deepen your relationships by cultivating safer vulnerability download above fold Download "relatably responsive" interactive tool How well does your partner truly know you? Beyond hide and seek Is there something you need to tell your partner but can't quite bring it up? Cultivate vulnerable authenticity Perhaps you don't reveal too much of yourselves to each other, but wish you could. Grow closer together How deep you go speaks to how close you are to each other. The more you share of your deeper selves to each other and feel affirmed, the closer you feel and can bond with each other. Enriching your relation with character Safely drop your guard by aptly applying universal character principles. Let this interactive spreadsheet tool draw you closer together in love. Relatably Responsive in 8 pages Click on the page title here to quickly cover its content below. p 1 - Cover page p 2 - TOC, Icebreakers p 3 - Degree of self-disclosure p 4 - Preparing for self-disclosure p 5 - My particular self-disclosure p 6 - Apply character principles p 7 - Your response to my openness p 8 - Reciprocating Relatability Or scroll down to dive into each page. You can click on the page title below to get back up to this list. Relatably Responsive v1.0 p0 Relatably Responsive v1.0 p1 Relatably Responsive v1.0 p7 Relatably Responsive v1.0 p0 1/8 Table of contents Click on a table of contents item to instantly go to that page. Click on that page's header to instantly return to this menu Icebreakers Optionally use these eight questions to test how well you already know each other. Degree of self-disclosure The closer you socially are to each other, the more of yourselves you naturally reveal to each other. Assess how much you actually reveal of yourself at each communication level. Then report how much you would like to courageously share and still be loved. Preparing your self-disclosure Set the stage for diving deeper in yourself by answering these five items with the provided list of dropdown options. Express your intent. State what you intend to share. What concerns you have about sharing this now? What rationalizations kept you guarded? Why haven't you shared this until now? Your specific self-revelation Optionally use this space to write out what you seek to self-reveal. Practice putting it into words. Edit your wording. Say it aloud to get a sense of how it will sound. Applying character principles Invite your partner to improve their responsiveness to your vulnerability by applying these character principles. Select the character principle that you trust could improve their responsiveness to your vulnerable self-revelation. See how that character principle adds to the Johari Window , specifically for illuminating your blind spots to improve your life. Their response to your openness If you send your initial self-revelation by written message, have them identify which of these words best characterizes their reaction. Or you could record how much each seems to describe their reaction. Optionally use the dropdown list beside each item: very; moderately; somewhat; a little. Respect defensiveness as a possible cue for hidden trauma. Optionally use the "praise sandwich " communication format to invite them to hold you accountable to self-improvement. Reciprocating relatability Up to this point, this tool only addresses your self-disclosure to your partner. Invite your partner to reciprocate such bold openness by following these same steps. Have them download their own copy of this tool here. You then can both mutually deepen your lives with each other. If you need any guidance with this, you can contact a qualified counselor or reach out to us . You can use this in three ways. UNILATERAL Disclose something without them disclosing anything to you BILATERAL Disclose something special to each other at least once RECURRING Continue disclosing to each other in repeated engagements Next tab: Response Register If you find this tool helpful to deepen your relationships, you can log your exchanges here. PR save_1 PR save_2 PR save_5 PR save_1 1/5 3rd tab: Instructions how to save as a PDF After filling out each page, you can save the results as a PDF. Then clear the forms to use this again. To optionally save as a PDF, simple follow these instructions. Sender instructions Deepen your relationships Recipient instructions Currently requires MS Excel or reader to utilize. After you download the spreadsheet, it will open in PROTECTED VIEW. Click on Enable Editing to start using it. The form will not work until you do. Ready to try a new way? Download "Relationally Responsive" interactive tool By using this tool, you agree with our Terms of Use and our Privacy Policy . If these terms and this policy do not fit your need, you are not to use this tool. We welcome you to contact us to suggest how we can fit these to your particular needs.

Love unleashes our life’s potential. < Back H05 Love Principle List of all principles Love unleashes our life’s potential. Image: Pixabay – UlisesEkzMoreno (click on meme to see source image) Summary The more you can fully resolve your needs in ways that enables you to respect the needs of others, the more of your full potential you can reach. You function better. You can do things better. Your wellness improves. You no longer must waste precious time and energy struggling to cope. You can invest your focus on continuing to resolve your needs and helping others to resolve theirs. It gets easier for you to do for them as you would have them do for you. Description Which would you prefer? Fend for yourself and avoid being vulnerable to others, since you only can trust yourself fully. OR Expand more of your life’s potential by cultivating meaningful and deep connections with others. Anankelogy As fewer of your needs fully resolve, you naturally cannot function as well as before. The less you can function, the quicker you naturally prioritize more essential matters. You must put your full potential on hold. As you go through modern life fending for yourself, you tend to fall prey to situations where your needs cannot fully resolve without the cooperation of others. Others are too busy fending for their own essentials. No one it seems fully resolves their needs. You don’t personally know anyone living up to their full potential, so you accept your lot as normal. If you dared to reach out to offer someone help, you know you risk being exploited. Despite the promises of modernity to make life easier, everyone seems to have it a little harder. And effectively become less loving than our recent communal ancestors. Need-response The more you honor the needs of others as your own, the more you inspire at least some of them to honor your needs as their own. You tap into your life’s potential when ready to boldly love another like no one has loved them before. Need-response provides an effective communication framework to honor their needs as much if not more than your own. It follows the praise sandwich format, to sandwich your less pleasant message about how they affect your needs between positive affirmations of them. POSITIVE: “Thank you for your [value to me].” NEGATIVE: “When you [act in a certain way, it affects my need].” POSITIVE: “The more you respond to my needs, the more I can faithfully respond to your needs.” For example, apply this to each other’s need to be better understood. P: “Thank you for listening to me and trying your best to relate to what I experienced.” N: “When you joked that I took things too personally, it felt like you didn’t fully understand.” P: “The more you can empathize with this traumatic experience, the easier I can relate to yours.” Here’s another example. P: “I appreciate that you took the time to ask me how I am doing.” N: “Saying ‘I’m fine’ is only half true, as I am still struggling to cope with all the harm.” P: “I trust I can share more, as your patient with me as I thoroughly grieve this terrible loss.” Keeping any unpleasant message squeezed between some positivity helps to sustain our potential to be more caring toward each other. Reactive Problem Yes, such engagement opens you to possible exploitation. Not everyone will respond in good faith. Some will assume you must have an ulterior motive. “Why are you trying to be so nice to me?” Others will reject your overtures of kindness for many reactive reasons. You counter exploitation or unresponsiveness with assertive need-response. You hold firm. Humble and firm. You persist in your intent, and not react with defensiveness. If others cannot appreciate your responsive effort, move on. Seek those you can trust to be more responsive to your offers of lovingkindness. Build your courage with early successes with them. Don’t let anyone detract you from the higher ideals of love. Don’t let anyone distract you from your full potential to spread more love in this world. Don’t let anyone or anything detach you from a deeper connection with all life Responsive Solution When you experience yourself as one with the universe, you intuitively recognize that whatever you do to others you ultimately do to yourself. At a profoundly deep level, we are all connected . Smile more often. See others smile in return. Offer small acts of kindness. Witness some reciprocate your generosity. When needing friendship, be a friend to them. Expand your social capital, your outlook on life, your potential to mature your empathy toward others. Relate to others as you would have them relate to you. Find someone who’s as responsive as you. Recharge each other’s batteries, likely drained from all those distrusting souls out there. Keep each other’s love alive. Get to know what others need, and how they need it. Humbly share your needs with them. Cultivate your trustworthiness by consistently respecting their needs. Show them how much you value them by your wiliness to put their interests ahead of your own. Let love be your guide. Grow your lovingkindness reputation by letting your consistent concern for others keep you predictable. Let this keep you open to being loved by caring others. Be honest about your mistakes, your shortcomings, your emotional wounds still healing, your times of doubt and distrust, your fears of being hurt again, and your willingness to risk more pain to reach more of your potential to love and be loved. Be resilient, by getting back up after being knocked down time and time again. Let your equanimity keep your love unshakeable. Let your maturing love permeate your life like your life depends upon it—because it ultimately does! Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: It’s hard to love others who keep rejecting my sincere kindness. Love often gets confused with sex, and that’s a problem I like to see addressed. Emotional intimacy plays a key role, rejected by those fearing such intimacy. I find it excruciatingly difficult to love others while self-absorbed in so much pain. Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. Together, let’s improve our need-responsiveness . Together, let’s spread some love . See other principles in this category - Foundational - Basic - General - Pain - Conflict - Authority - Law - Love - Previous Facebook X (Twitter) WhatsApp LinkedIn Pinterest Copy link Next

Find out if a wellness campaign can be a good fit for you. Take this free online course to assess how ready you are to start your own wellness campaign. Wellness Warmup F R E E How do you know if you're ready for your own wellness campaign? A welln ess campaign may not be a good fit for just anyone. Before starting your own wellness campaign, check if this is a good fit for you. Take this free online course to decide for yourself. This short course gives you a brief taste of what a campaign is uniquely about. Simply register to the Anankelogy Foundation site. Accepting our terms of service and privacy policy green lights you to proceed. Let these four simple steps help you decide if you're ready to proceed with your own wellness campaign . See for yourself if you’re ready to join us in spreading some love. 1 Assess if this is a good fit for you Answer ten simple questions to check for yourself if this is a good fit for you. Start experiencing what a wellness focus can be like for you. 2 List & invite those you know List as many people you know you could ask to express a need to you. Choose one of three ways to invite them to express their need. 3 Observe replies and follow up See how they respond. Do they have a need you can instantly respect? Follow up on any stragglers. Mark how responsive each one is to you. 4 Decide if this is right for you Review your two scores . Decide if you should start your own campaign. Decide if you need a proxy to represent you. Or if you’re set to go it alone. start your own free Wellness Warmup online course

The more you generalize, the less of reality you realize. < Back C09 General Principle List of all principles The more you generalize, the less of reality you realize. Image: Pixabay – FelixMittermeier (click on meme to see source image) Summary The more you rely on simplifying reality, the more details of reality you likely overlook. We often keep it simple to avoid uncomfortable facts, or to hold together a coalition, often both. The more you courageously address each relevant detail, the more your needs can more fully resolve. The more you do, the more pushback from those relying on these oversimplifying generalizations. Description Which do you think is more likely? You have to go with generalizations to be decisive in life. OR You will get more out of life the more you replace your generalizations with relevant specifics. Anankelogy The more you feel overwhelmed from multiple sources of stimuli, the more likely your cognitive load finds some way to simplify life. You reduce complicated details into manageable general ideas. You dismiss what seems less relevant to your immediate aims. You generalize. To navigate life’s complexities, you likely adopt widely held views to help you comprehend what you cannot or do not have time to fully understand on your own. You generalize, in both senses of the word. 1) You apply your view as widely as possible; what fits you should universalize equally to others. 2) You evade messy details; you avoid bringing up details that could cost you social support. Until you process all the relevant details of a need, to fully resolve that need, too much generalizing can lead you astray. Your body then warns you this need is not resolving enough to restore your functioning. You experience this warning as some form of physical or emotional pain. To cope with the pain, you may revert back to comforting generalizations. You rely on what anankelogy calls relief-generalizing . That’s when you seek relief from the pain of your unmet needs with comforting generalizations. But relying too much on generalizing typically sidesteps the detail necessary to resolve the underlying need. So the pain inevitably recurs. You then risk slipping into dysfunction , of prioritizing the relief of your mounting pain. You can then afford less and less cognitive space to focus on what is necessary to resolve the need, to remove that pain. You increasingly latch onto beliefs that limit your appreciation of reality. All beliefs include some level of error . The more you cling to generalizing to cope, the less of reality you can faithfully process. Without some return to identifying and addressing the overlooked specifics shaping your needs, you risk slipping into a miserable rabbit hole of mounting despair. Need-response Need-response recognizes how legalistic and biopsychological responses to problems often fall short of addressing problems because they count on imperfect generalizations. You can find yourself pulled into generalizing by institutions built on such imperfect generalizations. The more grounded in a universal principle—like honoring others as your healthiest self would have them honor you—the more reliable the generalization. The more a generalization permits you to skip or ignore relevant facts, the more trouble you are bound to face. Some laws (like constitutional norms) are more grounded in universal principles than others. Most laws are kept intentionally vague to apply to as many situations as possible. And they tend to remain impersonal to avoid favoritism. Biopsychological responses to problems rely heavily on generalizations from the medical model . It tries to reduces detail-rich situations into internally changeable options. The more this model overlooks the socioenvironmental factors to wellness, the more its generalizing can lead you down a path of unwellness in the name of wellness. Need-response equips you to face the specifics of your needs and problems. The more of reality you realize, the less you habitually generalize. Reactive Problem Increasing alienation increases reliance on unreliable generalizations. Faulty assumptions fill in when not knowing other’s specific needs and experiences. Problems arise. Instead of taking a high stand to identify and resolve needs, avoidant adversarialism sets in to indulgently take sides . Problems then feed on themselves. Instead of affirming other’s unchosen needs they cannot change, you provoke their defensiveness. They provoke yours. You morally conflate what they could do to change with the natural needs they cannot change. They dig in their heels. What you reactively resist you reflexively reinforce . You then get more of what you ostensibly oppose, to ensure the conflict remains. You could possibly normalize this tension. You might indulge in the conflict porn of constantly trying to win over others. You play a complicit role in impeding resolution of needs. You come to depend on the familiarity of the tense situation. Responsive Solution Need-response provide the free Personally Responsive tool to melt alienation with deliberate acts of kindness. You replace the habits of avoidance and adversarialism with engagement and mutual understanding and support. To be better understood, you first understand others. To be more affirmed, you first affirm others. To receive appropriate support, you first appropriately support others. The tool helps you break the ice so you can incentivize others to be open to your service to them. You model how they can improve to understand and engage your needs. Along the way, you learn to let go of those fill-in assumptions. You drop your generalizations that no longer serve you. You gather more insight into all the dynamics shaping your life. You face more of reality and become a better person for it. The less you generalize, the more reality you finally realize. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: What counts as a generalization? How can I know when I have discovered enough specifics? I think too much concern about specifics can lead to overthinking some things. It doesn’t help being surrounded by others who constantly overgeneralize. Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. Together, let’s improve our need-responsiveness . Together, let’s spread some love . See other principles in this category - Foundational - Basic - General - Pain - Conflict - Authority - Law - Love - Previous Facebook X (Twitter) WhatsApp LinkedIn Pinterest Copy link Next

Anankelogy, and its application in need-response, introduces a new vocabulary to give you insight into this fresh understanding of our needs. Glossary A new social science and professional field introduces a fresh vocabulary of new terms. A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z This replaces the first glossary, which began as a blog post. That post froze up once the volume of new terms overwhelmed that post's capacity. This site links these new terms back to this glossary blog post. Once every new term can be linked back to this new glossary, that post will likely be deleted. GLOSSARY This new social science of anankelogy and its application in the new profession of need-response brings you a new vocabulary. VOCAB Steph Turner Oct 22, 2023 I created this revised glossary in late January 2025. The bolded entries identify new entries you will not find in the old glossary. You can sense the development of some of these concepts by comparing the new glossary with this older glossary.

You believe what you need to believe. < Back B06 Basic Principle List of all principles You believe what you need to believe. Image: Pixabay – jplenio (click on meme to see source image) Summary The more a belief proves vital to your existence, the more it rises in your hierarchy of accepted truths. The more your life seems or actually depends on something being so, the more you must naturally defend it. The less relevant to your required means to function, the less you defend it. The less your needs resolve, the more tightly you cling to any belief you perceive helping you get by. Description Which do you think is more likely? You can change at will any of your beliefs at any time. OR You cannot easily change a belief you rely upon to serve your vital needs. Anankelogy Your mind holds true or untrue what it finds useful to serve your needs. The more impact, imagined or real, the more you cling to a belief as an unassailable conviction. The less relevant to your needs, the less you hold onto a belief. If a comet passes by the earth a million miles away, it matters little if you believe it could hit the earth the next time it passes by in the next century. But if headed directly toward us, now your belief of a likely impact matters everything to you. The less information you find about something likely to impact your needs, the more you tend to generalize to fill the gaps. The less your needs resolve, the more drawn to comforting generalizations to help you get by. The more your beliefs rely on comforting generalizations that are easily disconfirmed by specifics, the less reliable your beliefs. Generalizations drift from reality, which hinders you from resolving needs. Specifics enable you relate more accurately with reality, to resolve more needs. The more your beliefs get shaped by what only eases your needs or relieves your pain of unmet needs, the more easily you overlook reality. You become saddled with blind spots or false urgencies to ease the mounting pain. You then rely more on generalizations to avoid specific pain. The more you rely on comforting generalizations, the less your needs can fully resolve. The less your needs resolve, the more emotional or physical pain you will suffer. The more pain you suffer, the more drawn to comforting generalizations for some kind of relief. Rince and repeat. Need-response Need-response shifts attention away from the quality of your thinking to the quality of how well we treat each other. You can be one of the best critical thinkers on the planet, and still clutch for rationalizations when desperately seeking relief from neglected needs. The more responsive to each other’s needs, the less drawn to false beliefs. You believe what you find enables you to resolve more needs. The less responsive to each other’s needs, the more drawn to false beliefs. You believe what you find helps you cope with the pain of your unmet needs. We all cling tightly to beliefs full of errors . The less your needs resolve, the more errant your beliefs. The more your needs resolve, the more your beliefs reflect what is real. Reactive Problem Most of our institutions assume you arrive to your beliefs rationally. Our adversarial institutions of law privilege less responsiveness to each other’s needs. No law requires you to be gracious toward other’s imperfect efforts, or to be empathetic to the poorly understood, or to be patient with those struggling to get it right. These qualities fall outside of the legitimate role for law. Laws prioritize harm reduction over need resolution. It goes against the grain of law to fully resolve needs . After all, our behaviors are not literally governed by our laws but by our needs . The more we vainly count on our impersonal laws to fix our problems, the more we often believe what we must think is true to cope with the pain of our resulting unaddressed needs. As modern society loses traditional sources for cohesion, such as a communal faith or a civic community, we easily put more and more faith in our impersonal legal systems. We call the police. We sue others. We overlook the shortcomings of the adversarial judicial system and limitations of divisive politics to somehow fix our problems. We believe these are important to fix matters because we need them to be important to fix matters. Responsive Solution Need-response seeks to restore interpersonal respect for each other’s needs. To directly relate to each other’s needs instead of relying blindly on laws to compel each other’s respect. To turn from a culture of outrage to a culture of mutual respect. The more need-response can inspire you to believe in the importance of personally expressing your need to others, the more you can believe that laws serve more as a backup system than the plan A we vainly expect them to be. One way we can better identify and address our needs is to agree to apply what anankelogy calls character refunctions . These are ethical standards known throughout history to create better results than mere legalistic norms alone. For example, these five character refunctions can help renew relationships constrained by some wrongdoing. Grace . The more you meet others where they're at, the less you're pulled into conflict. Forgiveness . The more you get past your anger, the less others bring up your faults. Atonement . The more you can restore some loss you caused, the more you melt their bitterness. Mercy . The more you can suffer loss, the more you inspire others to get past their losses. Justice . The more responsive to their needs, the more they can be fairly responsive to your needs. The more you believe what you find actually resolves needs, removes pain and restores wellness, the more you actually resolve needs, remove pain and restore wellness. You need to believe what improves your life, and let go of believing whatever helped you cope with past pain. Responding to your needs How does this principle speak to your experience of needs? Post in our Engagement forum your thoughtful response to one of these: I choose to believe many of my beliefs, even if nothing in my life requires me to think it true. There must be more to what shapes our perception of what is so than simply our needs. Surely there is some agency, some personal responsibility, in how we shape our beliefs. Is this belief that we believe what we need to believe stem from something we need to believe? Instead of selecting one of these, post your own engagement feedback about your experience with the subject of this principle. Remember the aim is to improve our responsiveness to each other’s needs, toward their full resolution. If you’re new at posting here, first check the guide below. Engage this principle in our forum Engagement guide Any visitor to the Engagement forum can view all posts. So do keep that in mind when posting. Sign up or sign in to comment on these posts and to create your own posts. Using this platform assumes you agree to our terms of use and privacy policy . Remember to keep the following in mind: Quote the principle you are responding to, and its identifier letter & number. Let’s be specific. Demonstrate need-responsiveness in your interactions here. Let’s respect each other. Engage supportive feedback from others on this platform. Let’s grow together. Together, let’s improve our need-responsiveness . Together, let’s spread some love . 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Stuck with a problem not fixable by law or therapy? Fill out the form to explore our need-response alternative. Then start your journey toward improving wellness by incentivizing the powerful to support resolving your affected needs. Need Help? Facing a problem that can't be fixed by either law or psychotherapy? Request for need-responsive help Use this form to reach out to us for help with a problem you cannot solve either by law or psychotherapy. First name* Last name* Email* Select which best describes your need. Check all that apply for your availability and your preferences. Problem area frustrated with boss student loan creditors medical debt wrongly convicted innocent politically homeless imposing legacy media How oriented are you to NR? I am completely new here I'm aware of some of this I've served on a support team I've worked with a support team I've been a client before Additional optional comments Submit DEMO PAGE We improve your wellness by resolving needs. Need-response can help you in ways lawyers and psychotherapists simply cannot. 1. Laws cannot address or solve every problem . 2. You cannot solve every problem by changing your thinking or behavio r . Need-response improves your wellness by resolving needs beyond the scope of adversarial law and personal change. A. Instead of trying to win over others, we cultivate mutual support to resolve each other's needs . B. Instead of trying to relieve your pain, we resolve needs to remove cause for your pain . Ready to give it a try? Wellness Initiative Wellness Warmup Wellness Campaign 1. Orient yourself to need-responsiveness. You will get more out of this service the more acquainted you become to its unique approach. To avoid slipping into disappointment, consider "following" another client's wellness campaign . Realize the different challenges they face and how they turn them into opportunities. Decide if this alternative service is truly a good fit for you. 2. Commit to wellness by resolving needs Shift your routine from settling for crumbs to insisting you get a seat at the banquet table. No more junk food of cheap values for you. Dive deep into the commitment of responding to the inflexibility of needs. The more needs you properly resolve, the more well you sustainably will be. Take the easy course, then life gets harder. Take the hard course, then life gets easier . See similar principles. Find a need-responder Contact the need-responder of your choice. Brief self-introduction to your chosen need-responder Invite this need-responder to serve you. 3. Find a need-responder right for you. Need-responders specialize their services to particular situations. And most need-responders work for a specific agency. Find the one that beset suits your need and situation. Reach out to them using the form at left. Invite more than one to take an interest in you. Incentive them to compete for your business. You may find some need-responders are not available for new clients at this time. Keep searching until you find the one that best fits your needs. Need-responders to serve you 4. Begin responding to your unmet needs. You don't have to wait to connect with a need-responder to get the most out of need-response. Explore our free tools to improve responsiveness to others in your social world. Each of them can segue into a wellness campaign. Responsive Wellness Responsive Development Responsive Specialization Need-responders Contact us if you are interest in growing this new service with us. Together, we'll make history. demo demo demo demo NOTE: This section only demonstrates the potential. We do not yet have such available need-responders. To play, press and hold the enter key. To stop, release the enter key. Daniel Lee student debt Vanessa Sims unexonerated innocence Clifford Greene Responsive Supervision Sara Prince generalist Lisa Wells generalist Marcus Anderson medical debt Brendan Cooper generalist Kara Tanner political depolarization NOTE: These are not actual need-responders. This is merely a mockup to show what is possible when this service grows. Listen to the Need-Response podcast to learn how you can help this needed new service get on its feet and grow. Request Responsive Help

Cases of innocence falling through the cracks of the appellate process get pick up by innocence projects. But where do they go after falling through the cracks of the innocence project? They can go here. We address viable claims of innocence outside of the adversarial legal process. We remove legalistic biases that neglect actual innocence. Public Exoneration If you're a wrongly convicted innocent, where do you go if the Innocence Project declines to review your viable claim? Appellate Process Your innocence gets overlooked by the biases built into the adversarial judicial process. Innocence Project Your innocence is better appreciated, but forced to fit into the adversarial judicial process. Public Exoneration Your innocence gets heralded outside their legalistic blind spots, compelling the courts to respond. 1. Your estimated innocence score This service is for those who have demonstrated their actual innocence using the Estimated Innocence Form . You can download your own copy here . 2. Your public innocence profile This service works best when your viable claim of actual innocence is profiled on th e Unexonerated page. Check it out for yourself right here . 3. Your public exoneration in 5 phases This engaging alternative to the adversarial legal approach has yet to be fully tested. It will be tested by the designer, a wrongly convicted innocent. Public Exoneration is a type of problem-solving "wellness campaign ". The innocence claimant, or their proxy representative, is served by a professional need-responder , which is a new kind of professional. They guide the process. Instead of serving the law as lawyers do, or championing one party against another as the role of attorney does, the professional need-responder helps you resolve each other's inflexible needs as a way to solve the problem of wrongly convicting the innocent. Instead of helping you to change your cognition and behavior, or trying to ease your emotional pain, as psychotherapists do, the professional need-responder helps you solve the persisting problem of the wrongful conviction, which causes the emotional pain. The professional need-responder helps you address problems occurring at four different levels . The Public Exoneration wellness campaign addresses each level in each of its phases. While this service cannot guarantee it can persuade the court or prosecutor to officially exonerate the client, it can assure you that if all affected needs get properly addressed, it will significantly move the needle toward full exoneration of the wrongly convicted innocent client. To get a quick idea of what the program looks like, click each tab below to learn about each of the five phases. To see one in action, scroll down below. FIT BASE phase TEAM phase GROW phase GOAL phase BASE phase Set a foundation displaying your innocence Leverage your innocence Gain need-responsive skills Solve personal problems Invite peer supporters Learn More... Review your Estimated Innocence Report with your need-responder. Develop strategies to optimize its strengths and address any weaknesses. Together, you craft your dynamic “exoneration plan”. Learn to proactively endure discomforts, to resolve conflicts with authorities, to relate more integrally with reality, and more. Sharpen these skills to later incentivize unresponsive authorities. Get any personal problems out of the way. Improve yourself where you can. Remove any doubt that you are innocent of the conviction. Set the tone for your immanent exoneration. Invite friends and family who believe in your innocence. Learn to show them how they can back your efforts. And how they can attract more backers to support your case of compelling innocence. TEAM phase Publicly establish your innocence Onboard peer supporters to your team Practice your new skills Solve interpersonal problems Invite professional sponsors Learn More... Incentivize your followers to upgrade as supporters and contributors. Show them how they can personally benefit by becoming more centrally involved. Or at least by participating. Guide your contributors to develop the same need-responsive skills you recently sharpened. Invite your supporters to watch, to encourage them to develop these skills on their own. With these new skills, work on any interpersonal problems. Practice solving problems. Demonstrate your capacity to endure discomforts. Publicly validate your innocence. Introduce innocence lawyers and other innocence activists to this alternative to adversarial legalism. Invite then to sponsor your campaign to boost their legitimacy. Incentivize their involvement. GROW phase Expand awareness of your innocence Leverage your growing support Onboard professional sponsors Learn to solve power problems Practice speaking truth to power Learn More... Let your growing support network publicize your innocence, your testament to human endurance, your readiness to face conflict with respect for each other’s affected needs, and more. Demonstrate these skills to supportive professionals. Incentivize them to improve their responsiveness to neglected needs with such skills. Vouch for their improved responsiveness. Assess the responsiveness of professionals to your compelling case of innocence. Demonstrate how mutual regard for each other’s needs create s better results than legalistic adversarialism. Invite the most supportive professionals to practice these skills with you. Learn to speak the truth of your innocence in ways that authorities will openly listen. GOAL phase Incentivize authorities to exonerate you Hold court of informed public opinion Replace cold adversarialism with love Effectively address structural problems Declare your avowed liberty Learn More... Give the courts every reason to process your innocence claim. Let them compete with the court of public opinion, as your team connects with media outlets to publicize your case. Upend the norms of the adversarial judicial process by demonstrating this more loving approach to solving conflicts. Let your loving character boldly exemplify your innocence. Unpack the imposing social norms that hinder just outcomes. Invite prosecutors, judges and policymakers to shift incentives. Publicly reward just outcomes over conviction rates. Declare your widely supported innocence before a candid world. Let your support network contest the legitimacy of any official resistance to exonerate you. Reward all who do the right thing. FIT A preliminary phase to prepare the way Self -assessment Invite supporters Get prepared Meet your service provider Learn More... Start by checking if this unique service is a good fit for you. Can the innocence claimant lead this effort themselves? Or should they delegate the leading role to another? Spread the costs early by inviting friends and family to back your wellness campaign. For free for them to merely follow. Or $4.99 per week for them to participate. Or $14.99 each week to get hem centrally involved. Get oriented to how this service operates. Connect with others exploring this alternative. Learn how this process takes a pioneering approach toward exoneration. Meet the professional need-responder. First through texting. Then in person online. No financial commitment for the first thirty days. Two types of Public Exoneration Public Exoneration offers two types of wellness campaigns: Custodial . For those still in prison or under parole or probation. The innocence claimant assigns a proxy with power of attorney to represent their interests. Noncustodial . For those discharged from prison or never sentenced to prison. The innocence claimant typically represents their own interests. Click here to learn more details about a Public Exoneration wellness campaign. Would you like to see a Public Exoneration in action? The best way to learn about a public exoneration is to follow one as it occurs. It is free to follow. Go to the Unexonerated page. Browse through the Innocence Profiles . Pick one you see is similar to the case you support. Then click the button to follow the campaign. Follow PE 1 Follow PE 2 Follow PE 3 Follow PE 1 1/3 Clicking the button opens this Exoneration Support form. 1. Select whom to support. 2. Select the 'follow' level. 3. Provide your name & email. 4. Click the Submit button. Check your inbox for directions. Follow developments Public Exoneration is being developed by Steph Turner, cohost to the Need-Response podcast . Steph will share developments of this new program in episodes published every other Wednesday. Listen along as Steph tests the program, who also is a wrongly convicted unexonerated innocent. Start your own Public Exoneration When ready to start your own Public Exoneration problem-solving initiative, click the Select button below. Choose when you want to start. The first thirty days are free, to give you time to invite backers to help cover the cost in a crowdfunded format. NOTE: Price and options may change as we grow the service to better fit your needs and the needs of others. Need-Response Public Exoneration $199.99 $ 199.99 Every month Solve your stubborn problem of overlooked innocence by mutually resolving needs Valid until canceled 30 day free trial Select Why charge any money for this? "Why isn't this free?" you may wonder. Why should you pay for a service to try to undo something that someone else caused? Fair enough. Charging you a fee keeps us accountable to serving your specific interests. You have little say over innocence lawyers or court appointed lawyers who provide their services pro bono. Their accountability tends to shift toward those who fund their services, instead of remaining accountable to you. Besides... this is far cheaper than hiring a lawyer! By contrast, you and your team can hold the professional need-responder accountable because you and your team directly pays for the service. Spreading the costs to your growing support team ensure there are more people to whom we remain accountable. We think of this more as your investment in improved outcomes, not some legal expense. Besides, as others support your cause, they receive benefits along the way. They improve their responsiveness to needs like yours. With public exoneration, we all help each other to reach more of our lives' potential. We all learn to love each other more, to honor the needs of others as our own. Is that not worth $200 each month? Your freedom is worth far more than that!

Schedule a weekly online session for direct support for your wellness initiative. Receive tips from the one who created these tools. Reach your goals like never before! Wellness Initiative direct support You’ve downloaded a responsive tool. You’ve started filling in the empty fields, and select options from its dropdown lists. But now seek some support from the one who created it. Now you’re ready to reach out and ask its creator some questions. Why not? The first session is free. If you need another session, ask me about any coupons to reduce the price. The current promotion drops the weekly price to zero, as I invite you to help shape it with your helpful feedback. This promo ends 9/30/2024. I simply ask you to provide a testimonial to help others decide if this is right for them. In between sessions, you can text me your questions and concerns. You will enjoy exclusive access to our private Wellness Initiative Support forum. From the creator of these tools Responsivism Direct Support $60 $ 60 Every week 25-minute weekly online support via Zoom Valid for 4 weeks + 7 day free trial Select You will automatically be enrolled in our program to stretch your responsiveness to uncomfortable needs. Look for another benefits we may add. You can book individual sessions without this plan. But then you will miss the opportunity to get the first session free. Simply click the Book Now button below. Book Now I look forward to helping you achieve success with this pioneering approach to mutually support each other’s needs. Your success will be my success. See you soon! What's in store This online support aims to walk you through the four key phases of a wellness initiative . To allow you to pursue it on your own.

Melt alienation with proactive kindness. Download this free tool to walk you through the steps for replacing debilitating alienation with mutual acts of kindness. About Introducing Anankelogy the book: You NEED This Anankelogy Principles Glossary Need-response Need help? Need-responders I-need messenger NR podcast NR Community Engagement Book Online Groups Development Personally Responsive Melt alienation with proactive kindness. Download "personally responsive" interactive tool fresh approach - download Option: Take the eCourse version For only $5, you can enroll in the Personally Responsive eCourse. It takes you step-by-step to personally apply this free downloadable tool. Click this button to learn more. Personally Responsive Program SERVE THEIR NEED Break the ice of alienation by offering to serve another's need. THEY SERVE YOURS Inspire the one served to serve a simple need of yours. CULTIVATE MUTUALITY Improve your relations with others through mutual regard . Mad as hell If feeling lonely, you’re not alone. The WHO and others report we’re in the midst of a loneliness epidemic . Competition kills our cooperation. Hyper-individuality is literally killing many of us. Fewer of us personally relate to each other. Few of us remain personally responsive to each other’s needs. Many of us are getting mad as hell. Give to receive Perhaps all we need is a little nudge in the right direct. Perhaps if someone reached out to you and simply asked what they could do for you today. Perhaps you could reach out to someone and offer to do something simple yet meaningful for another This tool helps you do just that. Let's replace such alienation by being personally responsive to each other's underserved needs. Mutual regard This Personally Responsive tool features the ABCs of the "praise sandwich" communication format. It cultivates a mutual regard for each other's natural needs . A = A ddress and serve their needs. B = B ring up your own affected needs. C = C ontinue supporting each other. You to melt the ice of alienation by initiating the responsiveness to needs that you also require. Mutual character building Thank others to incentivize them to appreciate you. Grant mercy to others who will then be encouraged to be merciful toward you. Humbly admit your faults to make it okay for them to honestly acknowledge their shortcomings to you. Resolve these deeper needs in the process of being more responsive to each other's needs. Personally Responsive in 8 pages Pages green highlighted are for the sender. Pages lavender highlighted are specifically for the recipient. Click on the page title here to quickly cover its content below. p 1 - Cover page p 2 - Knowing each other’s needs p 3 - Instructions for recipient p 4 - 1. Addressing and serving your needs p 5 - 2. Bring up my own affected needs p 6 - 3. Continue supporting each other p 7 - Testimonial p 8 - Was this helpful? Or scroll down to dive into each page. You can click on the page title below to get back up to this list. PR_1 PR_2 PR_8 PR_1 1/8 Knowing each other's needs Simple enter the recipient's name and sender's name in the provided fields. This personalizes the tool. If these cursory instructions are not enough, you can click the button to go online for further guidance. Or click this button here. Personally Responsive sender instructions Instructions for the recipient This lavender colored page begins the section the sender will send to the recipient. So this portion of the tool specifically addresses the named recipient of this service. The recipient can also go online for further guidance. Or click the button here. Personally Responsive recipient instructions You pick an appropriate question Is there something about me that I could improve? Is there anything I've done for which I should apologize? Do you need my forgiveness for something? Do you need to meet in person and talk? Could you use a hug from me? You tell me what it is I could do for you. Do I have an unrealistic expectation of you? Have I hurt you in any way that I should rectify? 1. Address and serve the recipient's needs As the sender, you begin your “personally responsive” journey here. You pick an appropriate service question from the drop-down list. Then put into more detail in the white box below it. Below that, you pick a character quality that aptly applies. Then you apply that universal principle as you fill in the white box at the bottom of the page. You genuinely open the door for relating better to others. Refer to the online instructions for more guidance. Suggest a service question for us to add right here . 2. Bringing up your own affected needs Research indicates that the more you are generous to others, the more inclined to be generous in return. Not necessarily in some quid pro quo arrangement. Usually with spontaneous intent to be fairly reciprocal. Follow the same steps used previously. The online instructions provide further guidance. Again, help us improve this by suggesting a service request we could add. You now pick an appropriate question for a need of yours. I want to forgive you for something you once did. I want to reveal to you something about myself. I want to tell you something I've never told anyone before. I want to talk to you about something deeply personal. I want to pass along some memories. 3. Continue supporting each other's needs As the sender, you invite the recipient to continue this meaningful exchange. This is optional. If you only needed to offer the one service, this need not apply. Just let the recipient know. As the invited recipient, you decide which level this was responsive to your needs. Just select one of the five options. You’re invited to download your own copy of this tool. Then you can take the initiative to engage underserved needs. See the online instructions for further guidance. Optionally offer any ideas for how to improve this tool to fit your needs. Testimonial option This optional step takes this to another level. As the sender, you invite the recipient to provide social proof of your responsiveness to needs. As the recipient, you hold the sender publicly accountable by incentivizing them to earn your trust. Let the examples inspire you to briefly confirm your appreciation. After writing out your testimonial, click the green “Go to AF.org ” button to post it online. Give any suggestion how to improve this for you. This prepares the sender considering a wellness campaign . You can learn more about this new service by supporting the participating sender. Was this helpful? Let this tool help you start a deeper conversation around each other's needs. Whether between this sender and recipient, or between others. Three options are given. Freewheeling option (FREE). Moderated option (FREE). Supported option (Free to start). Explore each in more detail in the online instructions . Each may change as we find what works best. Help improve this tool by offering your helpful feedback online . Next tab: Response Register If you find this tool helpful to nurture a dialogue around each other's needs, you may want to log the interactions. And track who said what and when. For example, you invite your sister to report a need and she agrees to continue the dialogue. You then invite a coworker, but they cease interacting after the first exchange. Tracking how long for replies can also prove insightful. Check the online instructions for more guidance for using this Response Register. PR save_1 PR save_2 PR save_5 PR save_1 1/5 3rd tab: Instructions how to save as a PDF As the sender, you will want to send to the recipient only the lavender pages portion. The document's "print area" covers only this portion to send to the recipient. If unfamiliar with how to save an Excel spreadsheet as a PDF, us e these step to walk you through the process. Click on any of these 6 listed steps to instantly navigate to that step below. Clicking the " Save as " header takes you back to the bottom of page 2 of the main PR tab, just before the start of this section that you will be saving to send to the recipient. See any further help with this online . Bigger plans You also freely serve another’s need in a wellness warmup . Which serves as a precursor to a full wellness campaign . Responsivism begins on an individual level. But when that proves not enough to effect needed change, you build social support with a robust wellness campaign. First, you raise the standard for how others you know are to personally treat you. With a wellness campaign, you hold powerholders to this higher standard of mutual regard . Or you can simply use this tool as a one-off. That’s fine. You can also aim to only use it once, but then decide to use again and again. It’s free. You can keep the option open to segue into a wellness warmup to expand the frontiers of responsivism. It’s completely up to you, the ball is in your court. Thank you for simply doing your small part to improve life for us all! Sender instructions Recipient instructions Reconnect with acts of kindness Currently requires MS Excel or reader to utilize. After you download the spreadsheet, it will open in PROTECTED VIEW. Click on Enable Editing to start using it. The form will not work until you do. Ready to try a new way? Download "Relationally Responsive" interactive tool By using this tool, you agree with our Terms of Use and our Privacy Policy . If these terms and this policy do not fit your need, you are not to use this tool. We welcome you to contact us to suggest how we can fit these to your particular needs.